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While the last couple of weeks have been a lot to absorb in the sense of our duties as a Godly woman, this week’s study is dealing with more duties (do you feel tired yet?), but this time, it is the duty of motherhood! What tasks the Lord has saddled us with! When I first read this book I wondered how 105 pounds of short, blonde, flesh could accomplish all of these guidelines set into place for me to follow. The truth is, that the more obedient you become, the more energy and time you find. The more you prioritize, the more you realize how equipped God made you to handle all of these responsibilities. While being a Godly and obedient wife is alpha in our lives, we are to make sure that we are also “salting” the lives of our children with the word of God. I love the author’s approach to motherhood in a Godly way, and how she can offer both ends of the spectrum. Life before she lived according to God’s word, and life afterWORD (you see what I did there :).) She is a woman who changed, just like all of us long to do. Her words can touch your heart. Read these chapters carefully to catch every lesson that she was made available for you to devour and learn from. Whether you are a mother now, planning to become one, hope to be one in the future, or are friends with one, these chapters will touch your lives.
I have the privilege of being able to stay home with my baby, so I found much direction in the author’s words being that I am the main influence in her daily life. I am on assignment from God to make sure that Hattie knows who He is, what He expects, what He has left for us (His Word), and most importantly for me, how she is to act as a young woman, and eventually wife and mother. My influence on my daughter is profound, and at times, scares me! She is following every lead that I set for her, whether it be sweeping the kitchen, or hugging Dada. She is learning how to function through this world, through my actions, and I sure as heck better be teacher her correctly. When I was pregnant for Hattie I went through a time of anxiety as I realized that I did not know the Bible as well as I wanted to. I confessed my fears to Ben, and he helped to calm me down with a few readings, and the push to learn and study on my own. I wanted to be sure that when my little bit ran up to me for advice, I could offer her The Word. I wanted to know verses to recite to her, and know how to answer her questions when prompted about the families in the Bible. I needed to know myself if I were to offer them to her! I still learn everyday, but I know that I am in charge of this knowledge, and these lessons that my daughter will learn. My husband is an influence in her life as well, but she spends triple the amount of time with me, so my duties as a mother outweigh his. I must bee better. I must do it for my child, for God’s child.
Like the author points out, I am careful to remember that even though volunteering to assist with church functions or in the community is superb, if it is putting your family in second position, it is wrong every time. I feel as if sacrificing is part of motherhood. It is my every intention to make sure that Hattie is being nurtured in the best way possible every second of every day. I may not succeed perfectly every single time, but my arrow is aiming there, and that’s better than not aiming at all. I have found myself longing to be around/share in the life of other Godly mothers in my quest to be a Godly mother myself. Watching other moms love and care for their children while using scripture for guidance is essential. We have put walls around our homes and shut ourselves between 4 sheets of wood, resulting in depression and isolation of mothers everywhere. They turn to television and social media to fill their voids, leading to sub-par parenting. We are to tear those walls down, socialize with other moms, uplift them, let them uplift us, nurture their children, watch them nurture yours, laugh with them, cry with them, learn from them, and pray for them. It is the best instruction that you can find secondary to prayer and The Bible. God has put these women in our lives for a reason, use them! I thank God every day for my dear friend Katie. She is a Godly mother and wife, on the same path to reach for as holy a life as possible. I look forward to her encouraging emails and inspiring words of affirmation. She is a blessing every day, and I miss her presence when time passes and we do not see one another. We never rant about our husbands faults, but rather help one another to find the lesson in every upset. We remind one another what agape love means. Find a woman or two or three or ten like this for your very own! Meet at the park, or have a picnic at one another’s home, talk about parenting, and what the Lord has led you to do, ask them questions, and learn! A wealth of knowledge will come from this congregating. Your children will blossom and grow from the play that they are able to have with other children as well, plus the opportunity to discipline them in the ways of sharing and caring will be made available!
I am so grateful that the author touched on the subject of the importance of taking your children to church. Ben and I can both speak from our upbringing, that since we can ever remember our parents took us to church on Sunday morning. No option was ever given, and it was a part of our lives much like brushing our teeth! Once we both left our parent’s nests, we still attended church every Sunday, since it was just second nature. We take our daughter to church every weekend as well, and although she squirms, and giggles, and shrieks a little too loud at times, she is learning that Sundays are for church, and community, and praising Jesus. She learns that we put on our pretty clothes, and honor our dear Lord, and we do so as a family. We hold hands and pray, and she may not understand the words, but she feels God’s love, and she will one day feel our love as she realizes that we did it for her well being, much like Ben and I realize the love our parent’s had for us, and the path that the Lord led them down to ensure our salvation.
I will leave you with one of my favorite sentences from these two chapters. I found it underlined and highlighted when I was re-reading my book, and I’m so thankful that I previously saw the importance in this statement. It can be found at the bottom of page 128, and it reads, “to walk in a righteous way, according to God’s standard and not the world’s or my own.” I love blogging. I love Instagram. I love movies. I kind of detest TV, but that’s not the point. I love my my friend’s advice, but I do, at the end of the day realize, that God’s way is the way that I need to follow. There is no, “it’s okay, she’s a great mom, and she does it”. If it’s wrong in God’s eyes, it’s wrong. Many a mother sets a Godly example, so following them is essentially following God, and this is excellent imagery for you and I to have, but unless it is right in accordance with God’s laws, it is wrong. End of story. Live this way, as rough as it may be, and I will continue trying to live this way too. God’s way is always trending.
I prompt you to spend some time praying for all of the women involved in this study. We could all use prayers for strength and discretion and open hearts as we work to bee better! Pray for me, and know that I’ll be praying for you!
1. Readings: Chapter 9 and 10 of our book (Pages 115-135): A Heart That Values Being a Mother, and A Heart That Prays Faithfully
2. Activity: This week, write down a prayer for your children’s hearts. Ask God to bless them and ask him to strengthen you as a mother as well. If you do not have children, write a prayer for your future children, and begin praying for their lives, it’s never too early! For those of you who do not seek to be mothers write a prayer for all of the young souls being led astray. They need all of the prayers that they can get, as do the adults who have been given the authority to care for them. I also urge you to do something special for your child, or someone else’s child this week. Something that lets them know that they are loved by God. Buy them a special color book, or a treat of some sort, and relate it back to the Gospel.
And while you’re at it, please water your plant too this week
3. Verse for memorization: Deuteronomy 6:6-7
And these words which I command you today shall be in your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, when you walk by the way, when you lie down, and when you rise up.
(NKJV-New King James Version)
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I chose this verse it leads us to understand how and when we are to teach our children The Word of God. It is to be done diligently (not passively but with fervor), and it is to be done every day, at every opportunity. Parenting is not a command that God has spoken lightly about, he is passionate about his children that he has entrusted to us, and his expectations for us are extremely high. These fragile souls deserve the best love possible, and I’ll be dammed if I let God down (literally…)
4. Discussion Questions: For those who want to chit chat this week, it will be fun to talk about how we implement God’s Word into our children’s lives. What special things do we do regularly to share scripture with them?
I am always available for questions, whether through email, or through the comments below. Happy studying!